A Journey into Self-Love

Becoming Confident in our Intelligence.

Hello, friends! And a happy Friday to you each and every one of you! For today’s blog, I wanted to make an addition to our self-love journey series. And a very important one, I will say. Becoming confident in our intelligence. 

Nothing embarrasses me as much as being told that I’m wrong, or that I did something incorrectly, or if someone flat-out tells me I’m not smart. There are so many aspects of life that can make us feel self-conscious, and for me, intelligence has always been number one.

Not only that, but it’s been the hardest  one to overcome.

I took a literature theory class two semesters ago and felt horrible about myself for the duration of the semester. People were able to theorize Nietzsche with ease, and whenever I tried, I was met with, “Um, well, not quite”.  I was surrounded by an entire classroom of people that I found to be quite intellectually intimidating.

I remember spending Halloween night feverishly writing a theory paper, not understanding anything at all. Knowing I would do poorly on the paper, and cursing myself all the while for being stupid.

And it’s so much easier to say things after the fact, but at least now I can say that I know LOGICALLY I’m not stupid. It’s so much harder to acknowledge such things when in the thick of it. Feelings are all too good at clouding our logic.

When we feel extra down about ourselves, there are a few variables we can consider.

Have I reached out and asked for help? When you’re worried about feeling unintelligent, asking for help can be the hardest thing in the world. It’s something that I struggle with constantly. That being said, it is SO important.

Asking for help is a sign not only to ourselves, but to others, that we are committed to learning. It doesn’t even have to be in terms of a formal education. Asking questions about fixing a flat tire also shows a desire to learn, which should be admired.

There will be people in our lives that WILL be smarter than us. That is life. We’re not in competition with them, we’re in competition with our past selves. LEARN from those in your life who you deem to be more intelligent than you.

Am I  surrounding myself with people who are making me feel dumb? And I don’t mean hanging out with very intelligent people, I’m referring to people who are intentionally bringing you down. Hanging out with people who we deem smarter than us can be difficult, but ultimately, we can learn so much from them. Another thing to remind ourselves of is the fact that everyone has a different skill set. Theirs may just be different than yours. And that’s okay! If that is the case, it’s the perfect opportunity to educate each other. How wonderful is it that we live in a world where we can share knowledge?

I also believe it’s important to use our knowledge in a kind way. Too often, people will hold their knowledge over others heads, using it as a weapon. We should aim to teach others, instead of keeping it all to ourselves. Also, I must mention that teaching is one of the best ways we can learn. Which is a win-win for everyone.

We needn’t know everything about EVERYTHING, but we should work to be knowledgeable about things that interest us, things that will benefit us, AND things that will benefit those around us.

And as hard as it is, we must be kind to ourselves in our education pursuits. Learn at our own pace, ask questions when needed, and to never stop trying.

Thank you so much for reading, my lovely friends. I hope that your day is a wonderful one.

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

 

 

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Salon Thoughts.

Hello, friends! Happy Wednesday to you all!

So, last Saturday I went to the salon to get my hair done, and I had a few thoughts that I thought I would blog about, so here we are! Salon thoughts!

As I waited for my hair to process, I couldn’t help but notice how put-together everyone seemed to look. And not just the hairdressers, but the clients as well. It seemed like everyone had long, acrylic nails, freshly painted toenails, eyelash extensions, and flawless spray tans. And boy, did I feel lacking.

My fingernails were nubs, my nail polish was chipped, the corner of my eyes had eyelashes missing from when I subconsciously picked at my mascara, and I still had my winter skin. And at that moment, getting my hair done didn’t seem enough. I was tempted to ask about hair extensions, acrylic nails, eyebrow waxing, eyelash extensions, and on and on and on. Make me pretty like those other girls!

Ah, comparison.

I suppose with this thought, I just wanted to say that it’s okay to not have all these extra things. There is, of course, nothing wrong with indulging in things that make you feel beautiful, but one can be beautiful without them. Many people were considered beautiful before these things were normalized, and people can still be beautiful without them now.

These additions to one’s appearance have become so normalized that people feel as though they NEED to have them. This is, of course, not the case. There will always be new things that come out to help us “improve” ourselves, and if we get too caught up in all of it, we’ll never be satisfied. And just as we’ll never be happy if we try to keep up with all of these trends, we also will never be happy if we continuously compare ourselves to those who are seemingly perfect.

In my day-to-day life I’m able to go about my day not thinking too much about appearance, but gosh, the salon just brings it out! Not to mention how hideous one feels when they are wearing the black cape that makes your neck look much different than it normally does.

My second thought was about how nice it feels to do something for yourself to add a little extra glamour to your life. I talk about adding glamorous aspects to our lives a lot, but only because I think it is a very overlooked area of life. As hard as it is fighting with ourselves desiring to be pretty, I find that instead, it’s best if I focus on feeling glamorous.

I like to pursue feeling glamorous  instead of beautiful because it puts my focus on more obtainable things. Glamour is unique to us all, it’s what makes us feel vivacious and confident in our own skin.

For me, glamour is more than just our appearance. Glamour is something that makes someone seem appealing, which is often much, much more than appearance. When I think of what makes me feel my most glamorous, it’s when I’m clean, polished, and happy. Glamorous people are kind, and make everyone feel special. They don’t need expensive add-ons to be this way, they just exude it. Their confidence comes from many different things, but it is not all skin-deep. Which isn’t to say that I don’t think someone who enjoys a more luxe lifestyle can’t be glamorous as well. I just think that glamour is a fifty/fifty thing.

It’s okay to have certain physical things give us a bit more confidence. I feel at my best when I’m nicely dressed, my hair is clean, and I’ve been kind to those around me. None of us are perfect, and sometimes we’re not as nice as we could be. I’ll make the leap and say it doesn’t matter if you’re wearing the most expensive clothes and are dressed to the nines, if you have been acting less than kind, you’re going to feel gross and not at all confident.

And for my second thought, which may seem slightly contradictory to my first one… is how important it is to do nice little things for ourself like going to the hair salon.

It can be quite expensive to get your hair done often, but treating yourself to some extra care doesn’t have to be going to the salon. It could be plucking your eyebrows, painting your toenails, or even giving the skin a nice exfoliation. It can be something so small where others may not notice it, but it could be just enough to give you a little pep in your step.

I know that it’s so hard to find time and energy to spend on our appearance when we live such busy lives, but I think that it’s SO important. I know that the more care I put into my appearance, the more me I feel.

I suppose my overall takeaway for this post is that it’s important to take care of our body and to do things that make us feel confident, but that doesn’t mean we have to do ALL the things. We’re allowed to pick and choose the things we want to do, and figure out what works for us. Maybe we don’t dye our hair, we instead prefer to get our nails done, or some may want to do both. And some people may not want to do any of them! And that’s okay, too! If that is the case, find something else you can do to add some extra glamour and shimmer to your life. Maybe a nice smelling lotion, or even a new shampoo. Just something little (or big) that you can add to your life to make it feel a bit more exciting and extravagant.

I really hope that y’all understand what I’m trying to say! I understand that I have a tendency to be all over the place when I write these posts. I blame it on the fact my brain has a lot of thoughts and I’m too slow of a typer to properly articulate all of them. Nonetheless, I hope you enjoyed!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

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Allowing Ourselves to be Three-Dimensional.

Hello, friends! Happy Wednesday! I am extra excited for this week to be done because I have a hair appointment on Saturday! EEP! I haven’t gotten it done since November! I am SO excited to get my roots done to continue my quest to look like Reese Witherspoon in Legally Blonde, aka my blonde inspiration. 😉

Today’s blog has been something I’ve been thinking of a lot lately, especially since getting more serious about my blog. Although this topic still applies to those who don’t blog, of course. I think it’s something that most people will be able to relate to.

How often are we expected, on the first day of class, to say our name and list three fun facts about ourselves? These icebreakers always caused me great turmoil. What should I say? What will others say? Will they like me? Would they like me better if I talked about my other interests?

We are all three-dimensional people with many interests and opinions. I think it’s quite common for us to try to find a niche for ourselves and then become disheartened when we don’t completely fit in. I think it’s a pretty common desire for humans to want to belong  somewhere, but gosh is it hard. As three-dimensional people, we have interests and hobbies that may seem to not go together.

We cannot be defined so easily.

Being three-dimensional is hard enough in real life, but on the internet, I find it to be even more difficult.

My interests change day to day, and I want to be able to focus on all of them! I think that when we are interested in becoming a blogger, it’s difficult because we are on the search for our niche.

99.9% of the articles I’ve read giving blogging advice say to only blog about something very specific, say cooking, fashion, or simple living. They say that if one tries to cover too many topics, their readers will lose interest, as every post may not apply to them.

I will, respectfully disagree with this nugget of advice. As writers, we are not only interested in one topic. We need to give our readers the same faith that they are three-dimensional as well, capable of having many interests.  It is possible for people to have more than one interest.

I know that I do.

I like writing about my experiences, advice, slow living, cooking, fashion, and my faith. And in the future, there will probably be even more that I want to write about. I hate the idea of only showing one side of myself on my blog. I don’t think that it would be very honest of me to do that.

It’s hard trying to determine what sort of blog style you fit under, I haven’t been able to find one that I feel fits perfect. I like the term lifestyle blog because it is so vague, which allows me to still blog about everything I’d like to.

Some bloggers come from business and marketing backgrounds, which allows them to be able to market themselves effectively. I, however, come from no such background and am naive to the world of marketing.

There are so many lovely online personalities that I follow that talk about their worry of branching out to different topics, because they think their audience won’t respond well to it. It makes me so sad. We shouldn’t have to shove ourselves into a niche just so that people will consume our content.

It’s hard enough being ourselves in person, why add another area to our life where we try and make ourself into something/someone that we’re not?

And I personally don’t see why people advise bloggers to only write about very specific topics. When I find a blogger, I enjoy if they talk about many different things. That way you can relate to them on a different level. Hey, I like cooking AND sewing, too! 

We can like things that may seem to contradict each other. Maybe we like scary movies but we also like Disney cartoons. Perhaps we like wearing beautiful floral dresses AND a black pair of jeans with Doc Martens. There’s no reason we can only like one or the other. If that’s the case, why do we feel the need to portray only one? I don’t know!

I can’t tell you how many times someone would ask me, “Oh, what’s your favorite movie?” and my brain would scramble to find something that people would think was cool, because they expected something indie or obscure. The truth to this question? Legally Blonde and The Sound of Music. Why did I feel the need to act as if everything I liked was so hipster and cool? Silly Mattie from a few years ago. Silly!

We cannot change what other’s perceive us as. We just have to know that we are more than that. We cannot continue to squeeze ourselves in a niche, just because of what we look like, or something of the like. We are all more complicated than anyone could imagine. And we are allowed to express and pursue all of our interests.

This is why I’m so thankful to all of my lovely readers. You let me write about whatever I feel the need to, and enjoy it all the same! I love that this blog has allowed me to keep in better touch with family and friends that I don’t get to see much. Thankful, always thankful.

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

 

 

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Healthy Living Through a Child’s Eyes.

Hello, friends! It is Friday! HOORAY! Some weeks just seem to take the longest of times, and for whatever reason, this week has felt that way. This is a post that has kind of been forming in my mind for awhile. I’ve realized that many people, myself included, do not spend as much time outside as we used to. The busy lives we live can make it somewhat difficult to do this. I began to think of this in relation to how we handle exercise. Two different events helped me come across a little epiphany.

Number one: an Easter round of Eenie Einie Over. A game which NOBODY seems to know about. Anyone outside of my family ever play it? I’ve looked it up online and it seems like more people call it Annie-Annie Over.  Anywho. It’s been a game that my cousins, brother, and I have always played when we get together. We played a round on Easter for the first time in years and years. We used to play this game for hours and I don’t remember getting half as winded as I was during Easter. As adults we don’t often do physical activity just for the fun of it. Our activity is calculated into calories, sets, and reps. Or our activity is planned within an inch of its lifeat 10:00, we’ll take a hike, but I have to be back at 1:00 so I can do this and this and this. Which may be a slight exaggeration, but honestly, it’s pretty true to life.

Playing Eenie Einie Over made me realize a couple of things.

The first being how out of shape I am. YIKES.

The second being that I miss playing outside like I used to. It’s fun to be outside and to exercise. To make the conscious decision to allow ourselves to channel our inner-child and be silly and explore the world around us.

We often view exercise as a punishment for not looking the way that we want to, instead of it being fun and allowing us to be thankful for all our body can do. Everyone has different abilities, so what we’re thankful for WILL differ person to person.

I know that many people will disagree with me on this, but I don’t think the gym is the best place or way to become fit. I think that it can be utilized in a way that makes it quite beneficial, but I also think there are many other ways to get exercise.

Number two: On Wednesday, Bobby really wanted to play basketball, so we bought a basketball and went to the park. Something so simple, but we were able to get moving and have fun. Working out doesn’t have to be rigid. For me, I don’t ever want it to be. I know that there are some instances where it may need to be, but I just want to suggest that we start thinking like children again. When not busy, run outside and explore your surroundings. Revel in the world around you and what you’re able to do. Healthy living is so much more than what our bodies can or cannot do, it’s also about what’s going on inside.

Spending time outside allows us to care for ourselves physically and mentally. Walk trails, smell flowers, play a game or two.

Summer is (finally) coming and I’m so ready to take advantage of the beautiful weather. I get giddy when I think of all the hiking trips, camping adventures, and canoe rides I have in the future. Being able to exercise like a child, really allows us to regain a relationship with our mind, our bodies, and the world around us.

As a child, I loved being outside. I still do, but often I feel as though I need to plan out my time outside, but I don’t! And neither do you! Walk out your front door and ask your inner-child what they want to do.  Our hearts long to feel what they once did, we just have to listen to them. Sometimes when I get outside, I  just can’t help it — I want to skip, I want to twirl. Obviously, this is not always a possible thing, but listen to yourself! Really listen!

We have such an innate connection to the outdoors, we just can’t help it! I think that by listening to ourselves, we’re able to strengthen our relationships. If on a hike with yourself, you’ll be able to strengthen your relationship with your body, by giving it exercise. You’re able to strengthen your relationship with the Earth, by surrounding itself with its beauty. You’re able to strengthen your relationship with your heart. Listen to what it tells you. Oftentimes, we don’t let our heart speak with us, because it feels things that we may not want to focus on. Feelings aren’t always practical, which can be hard for us.

Spending time with others in nature is a great bonding experience as well. One that I don’t think you’d quite get if going to the gym. Have you ever tried having a conversation with someone while both being on the treadmill? Nearly impossible, haha! Being surrounded by beauty allows us to be more vulnerable with not only ourself, but others.

In conclusion: listen to the heart you had as a child. Allow them to explore the world, to learn, and to make relationships with others. It’s all too easy to ignore them, as the business of adult life grows louder and louder. Listen to your body, too. What does it need? Listen to yourself and be conscious of the splendor the world provides us. Sometimes, feeling small in the world is what we need. Not unimportant in the world, but just small. Our worries aren’t always life or death. A childlike perspective is sometimes all that we need.

I hope that you are having a great day! And a great weekend to boot!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

 

 

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Putting on my Face: My Everyday Skincare and Makeup Routine.

Hello, friends! Happy Wednesday! I wanted to continue our little head-to-toe journey. I started out with clothing and I wanted to do skincare and makeup next! I hope y’all enjoy! And please, let me know some of your favorite makeup brands and tips!

I will say upfront that I am an Amazon associate and as such, I will earn money from qualifying purchases, with no extra charge to you!  That being said, I am not here AT ALL to try and force products on you. I just wanted to show what I use in case you guys were in the market for new products. I also wanted to share some tricks that I’ve learned from my time wearing makeup.

Makeup is something that seems to cause a lot of divide. I want to say first and foremost that I don’t think that one needs makeup to be or feel beautiful. And some people do not feel confident with makeup on and that is absolutely fine. It’s totally your choice. Do what makes you feel happy and confident.

For this little post, I wanted to detail not only the products that I use, but how I use them.

Rose hip oil

Rose hip oil is something that I’ve only recently started using. I’ve seen so many people online using it and I wanted to try it so badly. I always thought that I had oily skin, but as I get older, I’m realizing that my skin is more dry than anything. Especially this past winter, it got so bad. I hated it, because when I put makeup on, my under-eyes and even my eyelids were all wrinkly and dried out. This has been something that has been SO helpful. I’ve been trying to stay extra hydrated so my skin doesn’t get that bad again. The bottle also says that it’s meant to fight wrinkles and fine lines. It also says that it helps with the appearance of scars. And I’m such a sucker for packaging, I hate to say it. The bottle is so cute with the dropper and  little roses it has in it! One feels extra glamorous when using this.

Pond’s Cold Cream

After I’ve let the rose hip oil melt into my skin, I’ll moisturize with the Pond’s. It is very moisturizing and also so good for sensitive skin. My skin for the past six months has been reacting to almost every makeup and skincare product. I tried out a new moisturizer and was broken out on my cheekbone for about a month. I’m already on my second little container of the Pond’s and my skin is so thankful. It’s so exciting being able to find out products that work for you. I’m such a picky person when it comes to such things, I want to keep trying new products until I find the most magical product. This Pond’s might just be it. I will say that after you put the cold cream on, you will want to take quite awhile before putting on your makeup, otherwise it’ll all just slide off. Unless you’re using it for a makeup remover, which it also does, quite well! I use the rose hip oil and the Pond’s twice a day, in the morning before putting my makeup on, and then right before I go to bed. My skin has never been softer!

Highlight/Blush

I’ve been using this same highlight for around a year now. The same exact one, it hasn’t run out yet! I know that you’re supposed to change them out every so often, but I just keep them until they absolutely run out… I still have so much left! And it’s so cheap! It’s meant to be a highlight, but I use it as a blush. I love wearing a lot of brush and tend to go a bit overboard on it. I put it on where you would put blush and where you would put bronzer, because I don’t really think bronzer suits me. I also make sure to add a little extra on my nose because I think that is so dang cute! I like that putting on blush acts as a somewhat more subtle contour. It also adds a bit more color into the cheeks, which is especially nice when you’re as pale as I am.

Foundation

I have just started using this foundation. Before this one, I had used the Too Faced: Born this Way foundation. I really like that this one contains SPF in it, because as someone who is quite pale, I burn VERY easily. I like a very natural coverage, and I find this foundation really does wonders. I usually apply foundation more like a concealer than an all-over foundation. I make sure to focus it on my eyelids, my under-eye circles, and any spots that need any extra lovin’. I generally like keeping my face very natural and letting some freckles peak through. I feel more me when my skin isn’t totally flawless. However, I must say, I do love having some extra help with my eye-bags, ha! I definitely recommend going to a makeup counter to find the perfect foundation match. Try as I might, I can’t seem to be able to match my foundation on my own. I’ve ended up with many bottles of foundation that do me absolutely no wonders. You also end up using so much more product if it doesn’t perfectly match because you have to drag it all over your neck/any other part that doesn’t match.

Blush brush

I’m not a fancy makeup guru or anything, so I use this sculpting brush for a little bit of everything. I use it for foundation, blush, and also on the rare occasions I use bronzer or highlighter. I think this brush is a super great one because it is useful for so many different purposes. I prefer putting on foundation with my hands, so this is really the only face brush that I use. I know that may be slightly controversial, but I find that my hands work in product better! It’s really important to have a brush that’s soft, because otherwise, when applying blush to your face, you’ll end up wiping off all your foundation. Also, it sure as heck doesn’t feel good using scratchy brushes!

Mascara 

This brand was sold where I used to work and I really grew to love it. It’s certainly not going to give you the longest or thickest lashes, but I really love the natural look it gives. I’ve always preferred a black mascara as opposed to a lighter one. I know that some people really love a brown mascara because it matches better with their eyelashes and eyebrows. Again, it all depends on personal preference! I also curl my lashes most days, making sure to be extra careful not to rip out any. It never gets any less scary!

Brow pencil

My eyebrows and I have been through thick and thin — literally. They’ve been good, they’ve been bad, and they’ve certainly been ugly. They’re quite dark and thick naturally. I keep them fairly natural, I pluck the middle of them and I also pluck any stragglers that may be around. Finding the brow shape that we feel best in is such an important thing. I know that when my brows are unkempt, I feel unkempt as well. My brows are naturally quite dark so I don’t fill them in too much, mostly just the tail of them. My eyebrows are also quite thick, but for whatever reason, they’re not terribly long. So I draw them on to be a bit longer as well. I’m not an expert by any means! Nor do I spend much time on them!

Lipstick 

For those that knew me in high school, they’ll remember my red lipstick days. I still love me a good red lipstick every once in awhile, but now I lean towards something more natural. I really like pink for lipstick, something that’s just a shade or two different than my natural lip color, be it lighter or be it darker. I really like this lipstick because it feels extra moisturizing. I’m such an obsessive chapstick user that this is super helpful to me. I like to have a chapstick in pretty much every room of my apartment. If I want to get extra fancy, I’ll go for a red but this is perfect for my everyday makeup. When I want a super duper natural look, I’ll apply lipstick, then put on chapstick over it, and then blot that off. 

Eyeshadow brush

Again, I am not fancy at all when it comes to makeup, so I use this brush for all my eyeshadow looks. I just make sure that my brushes are soft enough that they don’t disrupt all my makeup that’s on my skin. I also make sure to wipe them off in-between colors so I don’t end up with a huge mess on my eyelids!

Eyeshadow 

As I’ve said probably a million times, I like my makeup to be quite natural. Which is quite a change from how I used to be. I used to not be caught dead without heavy eyeliner and red lipstick. Which is so funny because now whenever I put eyeliner on, I feel as though it doesn’t suit me at all! Which is why I tend to stick to eyeshadow if I’m feeling like adding a little something extra. If I wear eyeshadow I usually stick with a dark brown in the crease and a lighter color on the lid. I like beige or glitter for the lid. Usually a light gold one works best for me. I like choosing colors that make my eyes pop. I have blue-green eyes, so I like browns, golds, and even sometimes a purple. I remember going to the Clinique makeup counter the summer before I went into seventh grade and the woman put purple eyeshadow on me and I was so amazed at how green my eyes looked. Everyone can wear whatever eyeshadow color they want, but if you want your eyes really to pop, look towards the color wheel!

Powder

Another case of, “WOW! This packaging is adorable.” It works so amazing though. I like this one in particular because it has a slight purple tint in it which helps with lightening the under-eyes. I used to use powder on the entire face because I was worried about getting oily, but nowadays I only put powder on the places I feel really need it, my eyelids, my under-eyes, around the nose, and my chin. Otherwise, I just let my skin hang out and do what it wants. And let me tell you, it feel so much better than putting tons and tons of powder around my face. Again, some may feel differently! Which is okay! Makeup is a wonderful way to express ourselves!

 

Another little tip that I have is to look towards your family. You may not have family that look 100% like you, but it can often be quite helpful. For example, I look to my mom for makeup inspiration. She is naturally much more tan than I am, but we have similar eye color so I take inspiration from her eye looks. She’ll use some dark green eyeliner on her eyes and it looks quite striking. I’ve tried it a couple times on myself and I really enjoy it!

Makeup can be a great thing to play with, and some people get SO creative with it! I love scrolling through Instagram to see what looks people are able to come up with. I may not be quite at that level (YET!) but I enjoy makeup all the same!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

 

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5 Ways to Add a Little Bit of Glamour to our Lives.

Hello, friends! I hope that you are having a lovely Friday thus far! It is FINALLY the weekend! This week was seemingly never ending, oh my goodness.

We may not have the time or the money to live quite as glamoursly as we’d like to, but there are many small things we can do to glam up our everyday life. I wanted to write a blog post dedicated to this!

1.Personal Grooming. Its about impossible for me to feel even remotely glamorous if I’m unkept. Some of the things I do in terms of grooming are: showering, shaving, moisturizing, clipping my nails, painting my nails, plucking my eyebrows, and making sure my face is clean and free of leftover makeup.

2. Hair. On a day-to-day basis, I brush my hair and go, but this blog post is not about that, it’s about adding glamour to our lives. So, I will generally put my hair in curlers if I’m feeling extra fancy. It’s great because you can put your curlers in your wet hair, do everything else on your list and when you take them out, BAM, beautiful movie starlet hair.

3. Makeup. Once again, I do not wear makeup every single day. This makes it all the more special when I do. You can add a little extra oomph to your look by adding a some thicker eyeliner, a brighter lipstick, or maybe a glitter eyeshadow.

4. Smelly smells. I recommend some yummy smelling lotion for your moisturizing, but make sure it’s not breaking you out! From someone with very sensitive skin, there’s nothing that feels less glamorous than breaking out or getting rashes from your lotion. Another thing in this category is perfume. I think that perfume is worth a little splurge. I don’t use mine every day, so that when I do, I feel extra glamorous and put together.

5. Clothes. Everybody has different clothing items they feel the most confident in. Heck, even a pair of matching jammies could work. The most important things for clothing would be what makes you feel confident and what makes you feel comfortable. You could be wearing a dress that costs hundreds of dollars, but if it didn’t fit right, you’d still feel uncomfortable in it. You could just as easily feel your best in a dress from Goodwill that cost $5.00. Glamour truly comes from within, but sometimes the physical things help it manifest itself.

Thank you so much for reading, friends! I hope that you enjoyed this post. I know it’s a little different than what I usually post, but I enjoyed writing it all the same! 🙂

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

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Why We Need to Stop Romanticizing Being Perpetually Busy.

Hi, friends! I hope that y’all are doing well. Today’s blog post is a little different, I suppose. I don’t really know where I want to end up with it, but I’ll start here: I don’t think it’s healthy for anybody to be busy all the time. But it’s something that we seem to treat positively, as though it’s admirable or something to strive for. I think it’s admirable, but I don’t think it’s something to strive for. I applaud every hard-worker out there, and respect them endlessly, I just worry about society forcing busyness onto people.

I think that it’s so profoundly sad that we live in a world where we feel the need to always be busy. I know it’s something that I struggle with. I began to make it part of my identity. I would, in a very strange way, brag about always being busy, as if it made me worth more than I would if I was busy a healthy amount. I think we’re too focused on moving forward, moving forward, moving forward. We seldom let ourselves just be.

I feel as though there are going to be some people that disagree with me on this, and that’s okay. I just really feel like I needed to speak my opinion on the matter. We’re only human, we need time to recharge. I used to work and/or go to class every single day, week after week, month after month. I was miserable. I didn’t have any time to charge, but I would still brag about it, in the strangest sort of way. I don’t know why. Maybe I thought people would think I was a better person, somehow? That’s probably what it was. Which still makes no sense.

Sunday’s are supposed to be a day of relaxation and reflection, but how often do they turn into a day where you try to get your whole entire life together? For me, it’s more often than not. I make myself lists, long, long lists, that are absolutely impossible to finish in a day. I’ve been trying so hard not to do this anymore. Lately, I have been making a list of five things per day. Generally, it has one or two schoolwork things that HAVE to get done, a household chore, and then a couple self-care activities. An example would be:

To-Do List

1.Turn in annotated bibliography.

2. Do dishes.

3.Take meds.

4.Take shower.

5.Post blog.

I think it’s important to have some items on the list that are fairly simple, so that you can feel some accomplishment in your day. Before, I was putting so much difficult stuff on my lists that I would go days without being able to check anything off. And let me tell you, it’s not going to motivate you whatsoever.

Finding the balance is so dang hard, and I’m still trying to find a balance in my life. It’s very hard to do, but I suppose it’s something that we all just need to keep working on. We must continue (or start) listening to our bodies and our minds, so that we know what we’re capable of. And it’s extra important to be honest with yourself about this. Whether it be realizing that you need to do more work, or whether it be you realizing you need to do less work. Everyone is different and we need to accept this. The amount we can get done in a day is different. I’ve always been pretty slow and things take me so long to do. I move at a slow pace and therefore get things done at a slower pace. But hey, they’re still getting done, right?

We need to quit worrying so much about what we should be able to do, and instead, focus on what it is that we can do.

Thank you so much for reading, friends. I appreciate the fact that I can send my words out on the internet and they can reach so many people. Much more effective than a message in a bottle. Although not quite as cool, I must admit.

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

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I Can’t Wait Until the Flowers Bloom OOTD

Hi, friends! Happy Monday! I hope that your week is off to a great start. My photographer (and lovely fiancé) is back!!! If these photos seem better quality than the ones before, that’s because they are! I have two lenses, and I hadn’t really played around with the other one. This is the result! I think they look even better than normal!

Sunglasses: I honestly don’t know where these are from! I found them abandoned at church camp, many years ago (haha!)

Shirt: Thrifted!

Pants: ModCloth! (But I got them at Goodwill!)

Shoes: Cracker Barrel!

Thanks so much for reading! Have a great day!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae

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A Black and White OOTD Captured with a Self-timer.

Hi, friends! Happy Monday to y’all! My day was pretty great today! It’s hard not to be happy when it stays light out for so much longer. Like right now, it’s seven pm and it’s still so light out! It makes me so happy!! I was also really productive today. I did a lot of schoolwork and started getting my apartment cleaned up. Since it’s finally getting to feel like spring, I suppose it’s time for some spring cleaning!

Bobby is gone for work this week, so my photos may not look as cool, unfortunately. For today’s, I decided to just shoot it at my apartment with the self-timer. I think they turned out okay! This outfit is super cozy and still looks put together! A perfect outfit for school.

Jacket: TJ Maxx

T-shirt/Dress: Forever 21

Leggings: American Eagle

Shoes: Converse

Thank you so much for reading! Have a great week!!!!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae

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A Date Night OOTD

Happy Friday, friends!!! I am so happy it’s the weekend! And even more excited because Friday is date night!! Bobby and I are going to the movies later tonight and I’m really excited! It’s pretty cold out today, but oh so sunny! I think I’ll definitely change my shoes for something warmer and cozier, but these were so perfect, I couldn’t resist!

Sweater: Target

Leather Jacket: TJ Max

Jeans: TJ Maxx

Sunglasses: TJ Maxx

Shoes: Target

Have a fantastic Friday, friends!!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae