Engaged Life

When Serendipity Strikes: We Bought Our Rings!

Hello, friends! I hope that you are all having a wonderful Monday! It’s so crazy to me that come Tuesday, Bobby and I will have been at our new apartment for one whole week! I’m still working on getting acclimated, because it feels like we’re on vacation mood, and not like we actually live here! That could be due to the fact that I’ve been frequenting the pool every single day… but I am DEFINITELY not complaining. My freckles are coming out, full force.

We have been doing some shopping around lately for things that we still need. A couch, being the most important — and the most expensive… I suggested we wait a little bit to buy one, to which Bobby decided that what we really needed was bean bag chairs. Yes, bean bag chairs.

And believe it or not, they’re not easy to find, nor are they cheap. The cheapest ones that I have been able to find are like $20, and that’s online. They’re even harder to find in the store! It seems a lot to spend on bean bag chairs, but maybe I’m just cheap. The search still continues…

So, cut to Bobby and I on day two of bean bag chair patrol. We find ourselves at the mall, going to many a store. We begin to pass by Kay Jewelers, and Bobby suggests we stop in to look at wedding bands.

The woman who helped us out was SO nice. Bobby was looking at some black rings, but ultimately decided on buying one that is more a grey/silver color. I was able to find one that matches my engagement ring so that I can wear them both together. I cannot wait until we actually get married! We’re under 100 days! We have so much left to do, but I think we’ll be able to get it all done. I need to pick up my dress from the bridal shop still, but we’re getting there! Just taking it one step at a time.

When we go to check out, the woman helping us out told us that both of our rings were actually on sale! She also said that the brand of ring that Bobby chose NEVER goes on sale, but here it was! And then she asked me what I was doing in Traverse City, because I told her that I had just moved here, and I said I wasn’t sure yet, so she told me that I should apply, because they’e hiring currently! So, I applied! And now I wait… Even if I don’t get the job, I still feel really blessed for that experience.

I love every experience that we have as an engaged couple, but oh my goodness, am I excited for us to be married!

Thank you so much for reading!


Mattie Mae

Engaged Life

5 Things to Know when Wedding Dress Shopping.

Hi, friends! I hope that you have had a lovely week! Happy Friday! I’ve had quite a busy week, as the semester is nearing the end. And holy cow, do I have a lot to do. With school, life, and definitely the wedding. Everyone keeps asking me questions about it and for most of them, I have no answers. However, if people ask about my wedding dress, I can gladly say that yes, I have found it!!!

I don’t have it in my hands yet, because I’m still waiting for my size to arrive to Becker’s Bridal, but it has been paid for and everything! Which is such a big weight off my shoulders. I’m so dang excited to be able to try it on and see what it looks like. When I went, they didn’t have my size available, so I had to try on one that was much, much smaller than the size that I wear, so I’m excited to see how it looks!!!

I wish so much that I could post pictures of it on here, but I don’t want Bobby to be able to see it. So, I will have to wait until after the wedding to post pictures of the dress, alas.

Buying your wedding dress is honestly such a strange ordeal. I’ve grown up watching Say Yes to the Dress and definitely have spent a fair amount of time crying during each episode.. I’ve dreamed of the moment my whole life and actually trying on dresses was quite a surreal event.

  1. I think the most important thing about wedding dress shopping is choosing who goes with you. It’s important to make people feel included, but I don’t think you should bring people who will be mean or jealous during it. I think that weddings bring up a lot of emotions in people and sometimes people act in ways that they may not otherwise. Be very careful when choosing who goes with you.
  2. Make sure that you have an appointment! This is something that I definitely ran into when shopping. Most places don’t allow you to just browse the store, so make sure that you have scheduled ahead. Wedding dress shopping probably isn’t something that you want to do on a whim. And going along with my last point, scheduling is a very difficult thing to do. Especially if you have a lot of people interested in going with you. While wedding dress shopping is a wonderful event for you and all who accompany you, at the end of the day, the purpose is to buy a wedding dress. If you’re not able to find a day and time that works for everyone, you may have to choose the day that works best for you. A way you can make everyone feel involved even if they can’t go is to start a group-text and keep them updated. Send them tons of pictures of the dresses, the sashes, veils, and crowns! It will allow everyone to feel more involved, even if they weren’t able to make it!
  3. Make sure you are very upfront with the employee helping you about the prices you feel comfortable with. It’s super easy to get talked into a dress that is far too expensive. How much would it stink if it was way out of your price range and you fell in love with it? So much! I was able to find a dress that was on super sale and was only a little bit more than the price that Bobby and I had agreed upon.
  4. This may be something that is obvious to everyone, but it wasn’t at all obvious to me — having to change in front of the salesperson. I’m a pretty shy person, so this was quite embarrassing for me. It certainly wasn’t my most favorite part of the experience, but the woman who helped me really was lovely and did make me feel quite comfortable!
  5. Another thing that I think is super important to remember is to be nice to yourself when trying on wedding dresses. It’s really easy to feel self-conscious when changing in front of a stranger and let me tell you, I definitely did. Not only that, but there are so many beautiful brides-to-be surrounding you. It’s really hard to not compare yourself to all of them, but it’s so important to not focus on them. I spent the majority of my appointment feeling mad at myself for not looking how I thought I should. And it was very hard to snap out of, but eventually I was able to, with the help of the saleswoman working with me. I doubt that it was her intention, but it helped me to get out of my head and be able to appreciate the beautiful dress I had on me. She told me to close my eyes and to imagine I’m walking down the aisle toward my fiancé, surrounded by my loved ones. That is, of course, what got me to start crying. Just thinking about getting married to Bobby and seeing him in his suit and him seeing me in my dress. Getting married is so much more than looking a certain way and that’s pretty difficult to get your head around.

I hope that my words were able to impact you in some sort of way, even if you’re not getting married. I think that overall, the message I want to convey is that it’s important to keep the big picture in mind. It’s so easy to become fixated on things and to lose sight of what’s important. In this instance, it could be the wedding dress, when the big picture is getting married. Or in college, getting fixated on one assignment, when it’s not the end of the world if you pass or fail. The big picture is the class. And I’m not saying that we should gloss over the little things, I think that they’re super important, but becoming all-consumed with them is not a good thing either. A balance must be found, even if that is much easier said than done. I’m still searching for a balance, haha. 🙂

Thank you so much for reading!


Mattie Mae

Engaged Life

I’m Engaged!

Hi, friends! I hope that you’ve been having a lovely week! It’s Friday! Yay! If you haven’t seen all one million of my social media posts about it… I’m engaged!!! (I could add an additional million exclamation marks here, but I suppose I’ll spare you.) Yes, I am now engaged. How lovely and surreal it is to say that.

For all of my family and friends who haven’t been able to hear the story in person, I thought I would make a blog post dedicated to it!

So, it’s Friday, the eleventh of January. Bobby and I completed our errands that we needed to in town and then hit the road! His work party was Saturday in Traverse City, so we were going to celebrate our anniversary a little early (or so I thought) on Friday.

We got all gussied up and began to head downtown. Bobby had told me that he was going to give me my anniversary present on Friday, but we had to be in a specific spot for it. I had no idea what he was talking about, but honestly, and surprisingly, I didn’t bug him too much about it.

Our reservation wasn’t until eight, but we got downtown around seven so that we could wander around a little bit. If you know anything about me, you’ll know that I adore any downtown. They’re just so cute and cozy. And the downtown in Traverse City is one of my favorites. We meandered in and out of the shops, trying to stay warm.

When it was finally time to have dinner, we walked into The Franklin, which is just the most wonderful restaurant. I had never gone there before and boy, did I feel fancy eating there. We had wine that cost more per glass than I usually pay per bottle!

After we left, he announced that we had to go to the car to grab my anniversary present. We headed to the car and then we began to walk towards a bridge that’s downtown. It has lights across the interior and it really is quite beautiful. We stood on the bridge, he handed me my gift, and it was… it was…

Fishing line and fishing lures.

Now, here’s the thing. Bobby is no stranger to puns, so while I was somewhat confused, I wondered if perhaps there was a pun at play here. “I really caught a good one with you!” or “Hook, line, and sinker, I’m yours!”.

Bobby looked confused and a little embarrassed.

“We have to go back to the car. I grabbed the wrong bag!”

Now, I don’t know I had ever felt MORE like I was in a rom-com than I did in that moment.

We walk back to the car and get bag #2. We repeat. This time when I open up the bag, it’s the cutest shadow box I had ever seen. And as someone who is an avid Pinterest user, you can rest assured that I’ve seen a shadow box or two. (The shadow box is featured in the picture for this blog post, but I’ll post an additional one at the end of the post.) I read the note inside the shadow box and looked towards Bobby, to see him kneeling, with a boxed ring.

Safe to say, I was incredibly flabbergasted, and couldn’t seem to stop saying, “Oh my gosh! Oh my gosh! Oh my GOSH! What? Oh my gosh!”

It was such a wonderful moment, just the two of us, as neither of us are at ease with very large crowds. It was perfect!

SO, if you see me posting incessantly (which, I will be…) about being engaged, now you know the story behind it! And boy oh boy, have I been having fun planning our wedding, as if I haven’t been pinning future wedding things on Pinterest since I was fourteen. (When we had to plan our wedding for my child development class, and I planned mine  with Joseph Gordon-Levitt).

I’m SO incredibly blessed to have found the most wonderful man to spend the rest of my life with, and BONUS! His family is wonderful too!

Thank you so much for reading, have a great weekend!


Mattie Mae




EDIT:  I had taken some video clips that weekend, so I thought I would add them to this blog! Here’s the link!