Travels

Labor Day in Leland, Michigan.

Hello, friends! Happy Labor day to you all! And happy September, too! Eek! In my opinion, it is officially fall and I’m going to begin decorating my home as such! As I write this, I’m drinking a delicious little coffee that will be featured in my August favorites… Stay tuned!

Today, Bobby and I decided to take a little trip to Leland, as we both had the day off. And my oh my, was it a wonderful day! ❤ Y’all know my love for cute little towns! And lucky for me, Michigan has plenty of them!

How stinking cute??? I was so tempted by these water bottles and mugs, but I stayed strong and didn’t buy any!
My cutie-pie!!! How sweet was he to suggest taking a day trip??? ❤
We didn’t go inside this grocery store, but I had to get a picture of their window. Even if I was taking said photo in a moving car. Sooo, perhaps it’s not the BEST photo I’ve ever taken, but I still think it’s adorable all the same.
Maybe I need to look at a thesaurus to find adjectives other than “cute” and “adorable, BUT… this post office was quite adorable. It was also very cute.
How beautiful is this view??? And not a touch of a filter on it! Bobby and I took a walk along the water and it was AMAZING. There was a slight breeze in the air and the sunshine was smiling down at us.

My friends! What a wonderful day today was! We also went to a little restaurant & tavern called Bluebird. I’ve been there once before, and their food is so scrumptious! They give you complimentary french bread AND cinnamon roll bread. That cinnamon roll bread is causing me to salivate whilst writing this… SO good.

And oh my gosh, we had the CUTEST encounter with a husband and wife, named Bob and Gloria. If you’re reading this Bob and Gloria… hello!!! it was wonderful meeting both of you!

As Bobby and I were entering the restaurant, so were Bob and Gloria. They asked us if we could take their photo in front of the Bluebird sign. They had the loveliest camera, and they asked us if we wanted our photo taken as well. We said yes, and they took our photo, but when we got to taking their photo… their camera was dead!

So, Bobby and I said that we could meet them after we both had finished our dinner to take photos, and they could charge up their camera while they were eating. After we payed our bill, we got up to peek around the corner to see if they were still at their table — they weren’t. We figured they must have finished before us and maybe they had left already.

BUT…

They hadn’t! They were still in the lobby, so we were able to catch up with them. I believe Bob took more photos of us, as Gloria reapplied her lip liner in the car. I had set down my purse and my shopping bag, and she scooped them up and put them on the hood of their car so they wouldn’t get dirty. (How sweet!) As Gloria is doing this, Bobby and Bob (hehe!) were talking about their cameras, and Bob told Bobby that him and Gloria were portrait photographers for over thirty years!!!

As Bobby began to take their photos, another kind man came out of the restaurant and said, “I’ll take all four of your photos!!!”. We all giggled a bit, because I think he thought we were all related, but we all got in a line and got our photo taken all the same! It was so stinkin’ sweet and the whole time I kept thinking about how this was one of the cutest moments of my whole life.

Afterwards, us four talked in the parking lot for awhile, we told them that we’re getting married in a month (a month!!!) and they told us how they recently celebrated their fiftieth (fiftieth!!!) wedding anniversary. They told us that the years just fly by.

And I can’t wait, Bob and Gloria. I can’t wait… ❤

Thank you so much for reading!

P.S What do we think of my new way of editing the featured image on the blog post???

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

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Monthly Favorites · Uncategorized

My July Favorites.

Hello, friends! A happy Friday to you all! Can you believe it’s August already? My wedding is in two months! What!!! I’m so excited!!!

I thought that I would do a July favorites for this month, as it has been quite some time since I’ve done one! Here we go!

  1. Eyeliner! I’ve gone through many a phase with eyeliner. Middle school I was very addicted to black pencil eyeliner, messily applied to the top lid and bottom waterline. Then I moved onto black liquid liner in high school, and I went a little crazy with the winged liner there. And then, at the beginning of college, I did a little bit of brown pencil liner. And after that, I didn’t really do much with eyeliner. But for the past week or two, I’ve been getting back into liquid liner. I’ve had an Elf liquid liner in a navy blue shade for longer than I’d care to admit… but I’ve been putting a thin little line of it on my lash line. I thought it would look a little strange with my black mascara, but it really doesn’t!
  2. My kitchen table! I ordered this table a couple months back, but we finally had it delivered! I love this table so much, and I think it’s a very classic piece that we will have for many, many years. It seats six and has an insert that makes it quite a bit longer. We keep the insert in it at all times, so we don’t have to worry about storing it somewhere. (Ha!) I love how neutral it is, and that it will match whatever decor our hearts desire.IMG_3567.JPG
  3. L.L Bean Dress. This dress!!! I am so in love. It is so cozy, and even though I bought it only a little bit ago, it’s safe to say that it’s going to be a favorite for a very long time. Which is what I consider before making a purchase! And blue is one of my favorite colors, and one of the colors I think flatters me the most.IMG_3772
  4. Journaling. Although journaling is nothing new for me, I’ve been making an extra effort to make time to journal EVERY SINGLE DAY. It’s such a wonderful way to work through problems you may have, or even to document the small joys in life. As much as we’d like to hope we’d remember all these wonderful memories, we can’t possibly remember every single day of our lives. And that’s where journaling comes in!
  5. Bar soap. I remember being a kid, HATING using bar soap. To be fair, the ones that foam and bubble are far more whimsical, but not as good for the environment, as I’ve learned. Bar soap requires little to no packaging, and can last you for such a long time! I love it!IMG_3767
  6. Brown Boots. I’m a fan of all things fall, and these boots just scream fall to me. And what’s even better is that they were less than ten dollars! Just like the dress I’ve listed, I foresee these being a favorite for many a year.IMG_3742
  7. Trip to Frankfort . This was such a wonderful day! I had such a lovely time going to Frankfort with Bobby’s family for the fourth. It’s such a cute little town, and being on the beach all day… pure bliss. I can’t wait to take another trip to the beach.IMG_3411
  8. Wedding bands. I was SO happy to find our wedding bands. And they are so beautiful, and so us. The fact that after the wedding, we’ll be able to wear them for the whole rest of our lives is so amazing! How blessed are we???IMG_3325
  9. Banana bread. Perhaps banana bread will be my claim to fame… although I cannot take credit for the recipe. Bobby LOVES when I make this, and I even made some for his boss the other week! And the smell of banana bread… is there a banana bread perfume? If so, I desperately need it.
  10. Anne of Green Gables! This book has been a favorite of mine since childhood, and I reread it for the first time in such a long time, this month. And no surprise here, I loved it just as much, if not more. A classic book that I think everyone should read. It’s such a lovely book to read when you want to fall back deeply in love with life.IMG_3604

Thank you so much for reading, my friends! I hope you have a wonderful weekend!!!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae

Engaged Life

Allowing Ourselves to be Hopeless Romantics.

Hello, my friends! And a happy Friday to you all! I hope that your weekend is of to the most wonderful of starts, and without too much of my chatter, let’s get started on this blog post!

There once was a time, that lasted for quite some time, where I refused to admit to finding anything romantic. I exclaimed deep distaste for all things romantic — being given flowers, romantic comedies, and above all, sincerity of feelings. Who would ever admit to liking those things? Not me! When it was even hinted at that I had any resemblance to feelings of the romantic sort, I would get offended beyond belief. How dare they!

Goodness gracious. How silly was I? There are many things that could be seen as the root of it all, but I suppose the biggest one was my fear of sincerity. I’ve mentioned this in many a post, but it really did run my life when I was younger.  As I’ve mentioned time and time again, I was the most sensitive of children, and as I hit my teens, I went all the way to the other side, being embarrassed by the depth of my feelings, even for silly, inconsequential things.

I wanted desperately to be a cool girl, and cool girls don’t have any feelings, right? They find romantic comedies trite, right? Being given flowers is completely unnecessary, RIGHT? I had that way of thinking embedded into my brain, for whatever reason.

Oh, my…  Thinking of the way I used to be is exhausting. Nowadays, I let myself like romantic things, and to not feel the slightest bit of guilt in regards to it. So what if my heart flutters when I watch a John Hughes movie, and Andie FINALLY kisses her crush, Blaine? Why did I ever think that was something to be ashamed of?

I suppose that yes, I did want to be seen as a cool girl, but I also thought it was the only way that I could be seen as… seen as… oh, I don’t know, a girl that “wasn’t like other girls”.  Yes, yes, I know. That’s a completely awful thing to think, but I felt that’s what I had to offer the world.It is also totally possible that I watched 500 Days of Summer too much.

And here is the thing, my friends. There are some women in the world who do not like romantic comedies, or being given flowers. And that is 100% fine. What is NOT fine is for us hopeless romantics to feel as though we have to scoff at all things romance to be found interesting, because that is NOT the case.  AND it is also not a good thing for those among us who truly do not enjoy big gestures of romance to feel as though they must pretend that they do. 

The right person for us will be like-minded and not mind if we shed a tear or two after we’ve listened to Elvis crooning, “For I can’t help, falling in love with you.” Instead, they’ll be touched by our sensitive hearts.

I cannot speak for those who are perhaps more practical than I am when it comes to romance, but I certainly can speak for myself. And I will go so far to say that I think that movies need to realize that it is GOOD to have a sincere love story. Not every love story needs to be filled with characters that are constantly making wise-cracks and not being sincere in the least! I’ve watched my fair share of bad romantic comedies to know that it’s something that seems to be done in the majority of modern movies.There’s enough harshness and ugliness in the world, why not allow ourself some romance and fluff in our movies?

And heck, let us have that attitude in our own life as well. Write love notes to our significant others, revel in getting flowers, and allowing ourselves to be sincere in all that we do. Romantic gestures look different for everyone, and I’m by no means trying to say that EVERYONE must be a hopeless romantic, I’m merely saying that I wish that it wasn’t seen as a negative thing for someone to be fond of all things romance. I understand why people are concerned about wearing their heart on their sleeves, but I really want to suggest that perhaps it’s not a bad thing to do. 

Thank you so much for reading, friends!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

Engaged Life

When Serendipity Strikes: We Bought Our Rings!

Hello, friends! I hope that you are all having a wonderful Monday! It’s so crazy to me that come Tuesday, Bobby and I will have been at our new apartment for one whole week! I’m still working on getting acclimated, because it feels like we’re on vacation mood, and not like we actually live here! That could be due to the fact that I’ve been frequenting the pool every single day… but I am DEFINITELY not complaining. My freckles are coming out, full force.

We have been doing some shopping around lately for things that we still need. A couch, being the most important — and the most expensive… I suggested we wait a little bit to buy one, to which Bobby decided that what we really needed was bean bag chairs. Yes, bean bag chairs.

And believe it or not, they’re not easy to find, nor are they cheap. The cheapest ones that I have been able to find are like $20, and that’s online. They’re even harder to find in the store! It seems a lot to spend on bean bag chairs, but maybe I’m just cheap. The search still continues…

So, cut to Bobby and I on day two of bean bag chair patrol. We find ourselves at the mall, going to many a store. We begin to pass by Kay Jewelers, and Bobby suggests we stop in to look at wedding bands.

The woman who helped us out was SO nice. Bobby was looking at some black rings, but ultimately decided on buying one that is more a grey/silver color. I was able to find one that matches my engagement ring so that I can wear them both together. I cannot wait until we actually get married! We’re under 100 days! We have so much left to do, but I think we’ll be able to get it all done. I need to pick up my dress from the bridal shop still, but we’re getting there! Just taking it one step at a time.

When we go to check out, the woman helping us out told us that both of our rings were actually on sale! She also said that the brand of ring that Bobby chose NEVER goes on sale, but here it was! And then she asked me what I was doing in Traverse City, because I told her that I had just moved here, and I said I wasn’t sure yet, so she told me that I should apply, because they’e hiring currently! So, I applied! And now I wait… Even if I don’t get the job, I still feel really blessed for that experience.

I love every experience that we have as an engaged couple, but oh my goodness, am I excited for us to be married!

Thank you so much for reading!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

Engaged Life · OOTD

Head to Toe: My Engagement Pictures

Hello friends! Happy Monday to you all! Today’s blog I wanted to do a little something different. It’s sort of like an OOTD, but it’s more so a breakdown of what I wore/how I did my hair/makeup for my engagement pictures! I am by no means an expert in fashion, hair, or makeup, but I do thoroughly enjoy putting looks together.

I’ve said many a times that it is NOT necessary to buy an outfit for EVERY occasion, but I will admit that I did buy a new outfit for these pictures. My clothes don’t fit very well as of late, and I wanted to feel confident during these pictures, so I did buy them new. Had I not waited until the last second, (the day before), I probably would have tried to find them at a thrift store, but alas, I did not.

I did, however, incorporate some pieces that I already had, so I didn’t COMPLETELY go off the shopping deep-end.

And off we go!

Hair.

I am not confident in my hair-styling abilities whatsoever, so I just straightened my hair. I don’t know what straightener I use, I’ve had it for years and years. I can’t imagine straighteners work all that different from each other, so this one doesn’t matter so much!

Makeup.

 I chose a pretty natural and simple makeup look, pretty much the same as the look I describe in this blog post. The only difference being that I took the color, Cyprus Umber, from the Modern Renaissance palette on my lash line. I don’t like how eyeliner looks on me, especially black eyeliner, so I choose to do a more subtle look. I like taking a little brush like this, and do a thin line along my lases. It creates a look that is both subtle and slightly  dramatic. And the brown makes my green eyes POP. I think it’s important when taking engagement pictures to choose a makeup look that is very close to your day-to-day makeup, just elevated slightly. They’re pictures that you’ll have for the rest of your life! You want to still look like YOU. It’s definitely not a time to experiment with vastly different makeup looks, because some looks photograph better than others. If you do want to do a look that is very different from your regular look, I recommend trying it out ahead of time, and taking photos of yourself. That way you have an idea of what it will look like in your engagement pictures!

Accessories.

Necklace: Bobby bought me this necklace for Christmas, so I can’t find the exact one, but here is one that is similar. I think that a simple necklace is perfect for photos.  It makes you look just a little more put together quite effortlessly. I seldom take this necklace off, so I didn’t even really think about not wearing a necklace! It’s important to make sure that your necklace matches with the neckline of the shirt you’re wearing. Some necklaces look better with a neckline than others. Just something to be conscious of!

Here is one that is similar to mine!

Pearls: I’ve always adored the look of pearls. They are so timeless, and I think it’s important for engagement pictures to feel timeless. I hope one day to own a pair of real fancy-pants lady pearl earrings, but for now, I’m a-okay with the ones I have. I believe in quality over quantity, but something like earrings, I can’t seem to justify spending heaps of money on. I’m fine with a handful of well-chosen cheap earrings. I generally opt for earrings that are more dangly, but again, I wanted to make sure things looked timeless, so, pearl earring it was! Below I’ve listed the exact pearls I  bought, and then a similar, cheaper, pair from Amazon.

The set I bought.

And here’s a cheaper alternative, using my Amazon Affiliate link!

Watch: Again, I wanted to choose an accessory that I thought to be quite timeless. I think that a delicate watch can be so striking, especially a faux white leather one. I’m not normally a fan of gold, or even a rose gold, but I found this watch to be quite charming. I think that if it were to be a silver watch, (which is generally my favorite) the white wouldn’t stand out as much. I think that sticking with one accessory on the wrists is a good idea. The star of the show should be your engagement ring! Pick additional pieces that are beautiful and simplistic so as to not take away the spotlight from that beautiful ring on your finger!

The watch I bought.

And here’s a cheaper alternative, using my Amazon Affiliate link!

Fake Nails: Speaking of the spotlight being on our rings… Arguably one of the most important things for engagement pictures: THE NAILS!!! My nails are generally in some sort of disarray.  Whether it be from me picking at the skin surrounding them, ripping them off, or even my sad attempt at giving myself a manicure. I generally go for red nails, but I thought that with my outfit being blue and white,  the red would make me look better prepared for a fourth of July barbecue, and not engagement pictures. So instead, I went with a  mauve pink color. I didn’t want to mess with with the nail salon or painting my nails myself, so I bought this pair of fake nails. I am 100% sure that I put them on wrong,  but they look better than my plain nails would’ve! So, success! I also included a nail polish color that is similar, in case you wanted to get them done at a salon or do them yourself! Not everyone is as inept at nails as me! (Ha!)

The set I bought.

And here’s an alternative, if you want a similar look with no fake nails!

Shoes: The shoes I wore are about five years old, from Cracker Barrel. I couldn’t find the exact pair that I have, so here are some similar ones that are honestly even cuter!

Option One.

Option Two.

Clothing.

Shirt: As I stated earlier, I’ve recently put on some weight. As a result, I have very few clothes that fit me correctly. I want to be able to be comfortable in the clothing I wear, especially for such an important occasion as engagement photos. When I do purchase something, I like to find items that are useful for me now, and items that could be useful to be if I were to fluctuate in weight again. A white t-shirt is such a wonderful option to have, and can be so flattering on everyone. Phew, that’s a lot of talk for saying I bought a white t-shirt.

Here’s the one that I bought.

And here’s a cheaper alternative, using my Amazon Affiliate link!

Skirt: As I mentioned previously, I want to purchase clothing that will serve me for a long time to come. This skirt is perfect for that, because it’s a true wrap skirt, so it will fit my waist at many different sizes. I also find this silhouette to be so flattering. I knew that I wanted to have a more fitted top paired with a looser bottom because I find it looks the nicest on me, especially in pictures. It’s important to know what works for YOU. These pieces that work great for me may not work for you at all, but maybe they will! Which is why I wanted to list them!

Here’s the one that I bought.

And here’s a cheaper alternative, using my Amazon Affiliate link!

And that’s about it, folks! I’m pretty sure that’s a recap of everything that I did/wore for these pictures! This is a different blog than what I usually do, but I had a lot of fun with it! I am not a fashionista, a makeup artist, or a hair stylist, but I enjoy it all the same!

If you do choose to purchase any of the products I’ve listed from Amazon, I will make a profit from it (with no extra cost to you!), as I am an Amazon Affiliate! No pressure on you to purchase anything, just wanted to give some options! ❤

Thank you so much for reading!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

 

Engaged Life · Photography

My Engagement Pictures!

Hello, friends! I hope that you have all had a wonderful Memorial Weekend! And yes, I have FINALLY gotten my engagement photos done! Thank you to Bobby’s wonderful sister, Mikayla, and his lovely cousin, Jaden for taking these photos/helping with poses! (I have two faces in photos: goofy face, and cheesy smile. I needed the extra help.)

I figured as long as we get our photos done before we’re married, we’re in the clear, sooo here we are! Enjoy! 😉

Thank you so much for reading!!!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae

Engaged Life

Getting Married Young.

Hello, friends! I hope that your week has been going well! Happy Wednesday! So close to the end of the week — yay! As I write this, I have a loaf of banana bread baking in the oven. It’s my first time making it, so I’m hopeful and a tad nervous. Speaking of nervous…

I’ve been wanting to write this post for quite awhile, but to be honest, I’ve been kind of scared. For whatever reason, getting married young seems to be kind of a controversial topic. People tend to be quite shocked when I tell them that I’m engaged. They seem to think that because I’m engaged, I must have my life perfectly together. I don’t understand why they think that. I certainly do not have my life 100% together.

I also see a lot of posts online about how getting married young is a waste of your youth and gosh, I just hate that people think that. I’m not saying that everyone needs to run off and get married at 21, but I don’t understand why people feel the need to try to bring others down. I honestly believe that it has a lot to do with people’s opinions on relationships, which is a blog post in and of itself. I won’t get into that too much, but I think that in general, people seem to be viewing relationships entirely wrong. Relationships and by default, marriage, are wonderful things that can cause those involved to be able to grow together in a really beautiful way.

I am SO excited to get married. I think that it’s so exciting to be able to figure out life with your best friend, and by getting married young, you’re able to naviagte adulthood together. Bobby and I are able to help each other with different things and it’s so wonderful being able to teach one another. I think that bonding during this time of our lives gives us a unique experience that would be different if we had met later on in our lives.

I think that getting married young is also really unique because you’re able to be with your partner as you’re still really getting to know yourself. I suppose that is one reason why people seem to be so scared of it, but the way I see it, as people, we are always changing. We’re never done growing or maturing, so for me, there doesn’t seem to be any reason to wait.

Getting married is a personal choice that I would never dream of trying to force someone into, but I know that for me, it’s the right choice. I’ve always wanted to be married, the idea of having that lifelong partnership with someone is so beautiful and special. I think that it’s important to be with someone who feels the same way you do about marriage. If you’re with someone who has differing opinions on marriage, then the relationship is not good for either of you.

I think that everyone needs to know for themselves what their deal makers and deal breakers are for relationships. Marriage is a big one. I could never see myself being in a relationship with someone whose goal wasn’t marriage. It would be a waste of time for all involved. Bobby and I, however, have always been on the same page. We’ve always been very upfront about our morals and our needs for our relationship. A little extra fun fact: after our first date, I told my aunt Nonie that I could see myself marrying him! ❤

For me, the three most import things are: marriage, children, and religion.

  1. I could never be with someone who didn’t want to get married, as mentioned previously. I know that some people have no desire to get married, which is 100% fine. I just know that for me, marriage is a very important step in a relationship. I don’t think that I would be able to fully be myself if in a relationship where this goal was not shared.
  2. I remember being in first grade when the teacher asked us what we wanted to be, I said that I wanted to be a writer and a mom. I’ve always loved children and I’ve always known that I wanted to be a mom. I could never be with someone who didn’t also want kids. I know that this is another rather polarizing topic, but for me, my need to be a mother is something that I could never compromise on.
  3. And religon. I know that I’ve always wanted to raise my children in the church. I understand that there are many people in the world who do not follow a religion, and I think it is their choice 100%. I can only speak for myself and I know that I have always wanted to raise my children in the church and I wanted a partner to desire the same.

There are countless ways to spend one’s youth and I will certainly not try to pretend to have all the answers about the best way to spend it. I do know that it is a wildly personal choice, much like marriage. For me, marriage is something that I am so excited for and I’m counting the days down until Bobby and I say “I do!”. That being said, I understand that not everyone agrees with me or feels the same. I’m not here to judge others or try to dictate what people choose to do. All I know is that I stinking can’t wait and am so excited for the rest of my life as a married woman!!!

Thank you so much for reading!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

 

Engaged Life

5 Things to Know when Wedding Dress Shopping.

Hi, friends! I hope that you have had a lovely week! Happy Friday! I’ve had quite a busy week, as the semester is nearing the end. And holy cow, do I have a lot to do. With school, life, and definitely the wedding. Everyone keeps asking me questions about it and for most of them, I have no answers. However, if people ask about my wedding dress, I can gladly say that yes, I have found it!!!

I don’t have it in my hands yet, because I’m still waiting for my size to arrive to Becker’s Bridal, but it has been paid for and everything! Which is such a big weight off my shoulders. I’m so dang excited to be able to try it on and see what it looks like. When I went, they didn’t have my size available, so I had to try on one that was much, much smaller than the size that I wear, so I’m excited to see how it looks!!!

I wish so much that I could post pictures of it on here, but I don’t want Bobby to be able to see it. So, I will have to wait until after the wedding to post pictures of the dress, alas.

Buying your wedding dress is honestly such a strange ordeal. I’ve grown up watching Say Yes to the Dress and definitely have spent a fair amount of time crying during each episode.. I’ve dreamed of the moment my whole life and actually trying on dresses was quite a surreal event.

  1. I think the most important thing about wedding dress shopping is choosing who goes with you. It’s important to make people feel included, but I don’t think you should bring people who will be mean or jealous during it. I think that weddings bring up a lot of emotions in people and sometimes people act in ways that they may not otherwise. Be very careful when choosing who goes with you.
  2. Make sure that you have an appointment! This is something that I definitely ran into when shopping. Most places don’t allow you to just browse the store, so make sure that you have scheduled ahead. Wedding dress shopping probably isn’t something that you want to do on a whim. And going along with my last point, scheduling is a very difficult thing to do. Especially if you have a lot of people interested in going with you. While wedding dress shopping is a wonderful event for you and all who accompany you, at the end of the day, the purpose is to buy a wedding dress. If you’re not able to find a day and time that works for everyone, you may have to choose the day that works best for you. A way you can make everyone feel involved even if they can’t go is to start a group-text and keep them updated. Send them tons of pictures of the dresses, the sashes, veils, and crowns! It will allow everyone to feel more involved, even if they weren’t able to make it!
  3. Make sure you are very upfront with the employee helping you about the prices you feel comfortable with. It’s super easy to get talked into a dress that is far too expensive. How much would it stink if it was way out of your price range and you fell in love with it? So much! I was able to find a dress that was on super sale and was only a little bit more than the price that Bobby and I had agreed upon.
  4. This may be something that is obvious to everyone, but it wasn’t at all obvious to me — having to change in front of the salesperson. I’m a pretty shy person, so this was quite embarrassing for me. It certainly wasn’t my most favorite part of the experience, but the woman who helped me really was lovely and did make me feel quite comfortable!
  5. Another thing that I think is super important to remember is to be nice to yourself when trying on wedding dresses. It’s really easy to feel self-conscious when changing in front of a stranger and let me tell you, I definitely did. Not only that, but there are so many beautiful brides-to-be surrounding you. It’s really hard to not compare yourself to all of them, but it’s so important to not focus on them. I spent the majority of my appointment feeling mad at myself for not looking how I thought I should. And it was very hard to snap out of, but eventually I was able to, with the help of the saleswoman working with me. I doubt that it was her intention, but it helped me to get out of my head and be able to appreciate the beautiful dress I had on me. She told me to close my eyes and to imagine I’m walking down the aisle toward my fiancé, surrounded by my loved ones. That is, of course, what got me to start crying. Just thinking about getting married to Bobby and seeing him in his suit and him seeing me in my dress. Getting married is so much more than looking a certain way and that’s pretty difficult to get your head around.

I hope that my words were able to impact you in some sort of way, even if you’re not getting married. I think that overall, the message I want to convey is that it’s important to keep the big picture in mind. It’s so easy to become fixated on things and to lose sight of what’s important. In this instance, it could be the wedding dress, when the big picture is getting married. Or in college, getting fixated on one assignment, when it’s not the end of the world if you pass or fail. The big picture is the class. And I’m not saying that we should gloss over the little things, I think that they’re super important, but becoming all-consumed with them is not a good thing either. A balance must be found, even if that is much easier said than done. I’m still searching for a balance, haha. 🙂

Thank you so much for reading!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

Engaged Life

The Importance of Date Night.

Hi, friends! Happy Friday! I hope that your weekend is off to a great start!

I have a blog post where I talk about the importance of slowing down for ourselves, but this blog I wanted to dedicate to the idea of slowing down for our relationships. Be it friends, family, or romantic relationships, it is so important to take the time for those we love.

Bobby and I make an effort every week to have at least one date night. We generally do it on Friday, but if need be, Saturday. It’s such an important thing to do because it allows us time to focus on each other and not on things we need to do, for work or school, or even the wedding. And we make a very conscious decision to be present with each other and not be on our phones.

Life gets so busy and we don’t always give the people we love our undivided attention. And it’s so important for us to just slow down and enjoy each other’s company.

I think it’s especially important in a long-term relationship for you to continue to date your partner. It’s so easy to get in a routine and not even think about these things, but having a weekly date allows you to break free of this a little bit. You can’t focus on the dirty dishes in the sink, or the English paper you have to write, you just focus on the person you love. Not only that, but it’s something for you too look forward to all week!

Hope that this gave you some insight, but I gotta go! It’s date night! Hehe!

Thanks so much for reading!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae