Engaged Life

I Got Married!

Hello, friends! I know that I wrote a blog post on Sunday, but I’m thinking of this post as my first real post now that I’m back! Like I said in my previous post, I’ve missed blogging so much! (I don’t think I’ve ever said post so many times!) I was finding myself having no real motivation or inspiration when it came to writing, and I think I was feeling a bit burnt out. I am happy to say that I am now MUCH more motivated, I no longer feel burnt out, and I am MARRIED!

It’s a rainy day today, and I am feeling quite content. I’m sipping on my coffee and am enjoying a leisurely morning. I am so incredibly grateful for the return of my slow life.

I am so thankful to our friends and family for helping us with our wedding. We truly could not have done it without them. A day or two before the wedding I told my aunt that I didn’t think party planning was in my future, and I stand by that. I admire people who are able to come up with decor that matches the vibe of a menu, people who know how to flawlessly assemble a seating chart, or even those who know how to be a perfect host. I have never been skilled at any of these things, which makes me extra grateful that there are so many people in my life who are.

This blog post is coming a little over a week late because I’ve been trying to get our home in working order before getting back into blogging. I’ve also enjoyed having the time to reflect on my wedding. And I’ve more than enjoyed my time being a wife!!! It reminds me of John Mulaney’s standup bit in his comedy special, The Comeback Kid, where he talks about how wife sounds so much more adult than girlfriend. (I tried to find a clip of just that bit, but couldn’t. The whole special is great, though! I definitely recommend it.)

I plan on creating a post where I share all the beautiful photos that were captured at the wedding, but for this post, I just wanted to take a second to reflect. The months leading up to our wedding flew by, as did the days before, and then the wedding itself. It’s all just a blur, looking back!

I feel unbelievably blessed to have had such a beautiful wedding, but I must admit that I feel as equally blessed to return to my simple, everyday life, only now as a WIFE!!!

It’s so nice to be back home, and settled back into our routine. I think it’s safe to say that Bobby and I are at our most comfortable when we are NOT in the spotlight, but I feel so absolutely loved by everyone who helped us with our wedding in any way at all. From a kind word to thoughtful marriage advice, to all of our friends and family who took time out of their day to cook a meal, set a table, arrange a wedding dress train… My heart grows three sizes just thinking about it all.

And to finish this blog post off, a bit of advice. Nothing terribly practical, I’m afraid. Just a quick thought about perspective. There was a moment when I was getting ready where I could not find my shoes!!! I freaked out, asking EVERYONE if they had seen them. Only to realize, upon being reminded, calmly, that I had put them in the bottom of my dress bag. I immediately calmed, and was able to get back to applying my lipstick. But in that moment, I was TERRIFIED. Looking back, it’s totally laughworthy. Weddings have so many variables, and it’s easy to get caught up in them, but at the end of the day… Weddings are for getting married! As long as you get married, your day is a success!!! All those inconveniences either become forgotten, or they become anecdotes for you to tell people later. Either way, IT WILL BE OKAY.

Thank you so much for reading, my friends!

XOXO,

Mrs Mattie Mae

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5 Things to Know when Wedding Dress Shopping.

Hi, friends! I hope that you have had a lovely week! Happy Friday! I’ve had quite a busy week, as the semester is nearing the end. And holy cow, do I have a lot to do. With school, life, and definitely the wedding. Everyone keeps asking me questions about it and for most of them, I have no answers. However, if people ask about my wedding dress, I can gladly say that yes, I have found it!!!

I don’t have it in my hands yet, because I’m still waiting for my size to arrive to Becker’s Bridal, but it has been paid for and everything! Which is such a big weight off my shoulders. I’m so dang excited to be able to try it on and see what it looks like. When I went, they didn’t have my size available, so I had to try on one that was much, much smaller than the size that I wear, so I’m excited to see how it looks!!!

I wish so much that I could post pictures of it on here, but I don’t want Bobby to be able to see it. So, I will have to wait until after the wedding to post pictures of the dress, alas.

Buying your wedding dress is honestly such a strange ordeal. I’ve grown up watching Say Yes to the Dress and definitely have spent a fair amount of time crying during each episode.. I’ve dreamed of the moment my whole life and actually trying on dresses was quite a surreal event.

  1. I think the most important thing about wedding dress shopping is choosing who goes with you. It’s important to make people feel included, but I don’t think you should bring people who will be mean or jealous during it. I think that weddings bring up a lot of emotions in people and sometimes people act in ways that they may not otherwise. Be very careful when choosing who goes with you.
  2. Make sure that you have an appointment! This is something that I definitely ran into when shopping. Most places don’t allow you to just browse the store, so make sure that you have scheduled ahead. Wedding dress shopping probably isn’t something that you want to do on a whim. And going along with my last point, scheduling is a very difficult thing to do. Especially if you have a lot of people interested in going with you. While wedding dress shopping is a wonderful event for you and all who accompany you, at the end of the day, the purpose is to buy a wedding dress. If you’re not able to find a day and time that works for everyone, you may have to choose the day that works best for you. A way you can make everyone feel involved even if they can’t go is to start a group-text and keep them updated. Send them tons of pictures of the dresses, the sashes, veils, and crowns! It will allow everyone to feel more involved, even if they weren’t able to make it!
  3. Make sure you are very upfront with the employee helping you about the prices you feel comfortable with. It’s super easy to get talked into a dress that is far too expensive. How much would it stink if it was way out of your price range and you fell in love with it? So much! I was able to find a dress that was on super sale and was only a little bit more than the price that Bobby and I had agreed upon.
  4. This may be something that is obvious to everyone, but it wasn’t at all obvious to me — having to change in front of the salesperson. I’m a pretty shy person, so this was quite embarrassing for me. It certainly wasn’t my most favorite part of the experience, but the woman who helped me really was lovely and did make me feel quite comfortable!
  5. Another thing that I think is super important to remember is to be nice to yourself when trying on wedding dresses. It’s really easy to feel self-conscious when changing in front of a stranger and let me tell you, I definitely did. Not only that, but there are so many beautiful brides-to-be surrounding you. It’s really hard to not compare yourself to all of them, but it’s so important to not focus on them. I spent the majority of my appointment feeling mad at myself for not looking how I thought I should. And it was very hard to snap out of, but eventually I was able to, with the help of the saleswoman working with me. I doubt that it was her intention, but it helped me to get out of my head and be able to appreciate the beautiful dress I had on me. She told me to close my eyes and to imagine I’m walking down the aisle toward my fiancรฉ, surrounded by my loved ones. That is, of course, what got me to start crying. Just thinking about getting married to Bobby and seeing him in his suit and him seeing me in my dress. Getting married is so much more than looking a certain way and that’s pretty difficult to get your head around.

I hope that my words were able to impact you in some sort of way, even if you’re not getting married. I think that overall, the message I want to convey is that it’s important to keep the big picture in mind. It’s so easy to become fixated on things and to lose sight of what’s important. In this instance, it could be the wedding dress, when the big picture is getting married. Or in college, getting fixated on one assignment, when it’s not the end of the world if you pass or fail. The big picture is the class. And I’m not saying that we should gloss over the little things, I think that they’re super important, but becoming all-consumed with them is not a good thing either. A balance must be found, even if that is much easier said than done. I’m still searching for a balance, haha. ๐Ÿ™‚

Thank you so much for reading!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae