Engaged Life

Allowing Ourselves to be Hopeless Romantics.

Hello, my friends! And a happy Friday to you all! I hope that your weekend is of to the most wonderful of starts, and without too much of my chatter, let’s get started on this blog post!

There once was a time, that lasted for quite some time, where I refused to admit to finding anything romantic. I exclaimed deep distaste for all things romantic — being given flowers, romantic comedies, and above all, sincerity of feelings. Who would ever admit to liking those things? Not me! When it was even hinted at that I had any resemblance to feelings of the romantic sort, I would get offended beyond belief. How dare they!

Goodness gracious. How silly was I? There are many things that could be seen as the root of it all, but I suppose the biggest one was my fear of sincerity. I’ve mentioned this in many a post, but it really did run my life when I was younger.  As I’ve mentioned time and time again, I was the most sensitive of children, and as I hit my teens, I went all the way to the other side, being embarrassed by the depth of my feelings, even for silly, inconsequential things.

I wanted desperately to be a cool girl, and cool girls don’t have any feelings, right? They find romantic comedies trite, right? Being given flowers is completely unnecessary, RIGHT? I had that way of thinking embedded into my brain, for whatever reason.

Oh, my…  Thinking of the way I used to be is exhausting. Nowadays, I let myself like romantic things, and to not feel the slightest bit of guilt in regards to it. So what if my heart flutters when I watch a John Hughes movie, and Andie FINALLY kisses her crush, Blaine? Why did I ever think that was something to be ashamed of?

I suppose that yes, I did want to be seen as a cool girl, but I also thought it was the only way that I could be seen as… seen as… oh, I don’t know, a girl that “wasn’t like other girls”.  Yes, yes, I know. That’s a completely awful thing to think, but I felt that’s what I had to offer the world.It is also totally possible that I watched 500 Days of Summer too much.

And here is the thing, my friends. There are some women in the world who do not like romantic comedies, or being given flowers. And that is 100% fine. What is NOT fine is for us hopeless romantics to feel as though we have to scoff at all things romance to be found interesting, because that is NOT the case.  AND it is also not a good thing for those among us who truly do not enjoy big gestures of romance to feel as though they must pretend that they do. 

The right person for us will be like-minded and not mind if we shed a tear or two after we’ve listened to Elvis crooning, “For I can’t help, falling in love with you.” Instead, they’ll be touched by our sensitive hearts.

I cannot speak for those who are perhaps more practical than I am when it comes to romance, but I certainly can speak for myself. And I will go so far to say that I think that movies need to realize that it is GOOD to have a sincere love story. Not every love story needs to be filled with characters that are constantly making wise-cracks and not being sincere in the least! I’ve watched my fair share of bad romantic comedies to know that it’s something that seems to be done in the majority of modern movies.There’s enough harshness and ugliness in the world, why not allow ourself some romance and fluff in our movies?

And heck, let us have that attitude in our own life as well. Write love notes to our significant others, revel in getting flowers, and allowing ourselves to be sincere in all that we do. Romantic gestures look different for everyone, and I’m by no means trying to say that EVERYONE must be a hopeless romantic, I’m merely saying that I wish that it wasn’t seen as a negative thing for someone to be fond of all things romance. I understand why people are concerned about wearing their heart on their sleeves, but I really want to suggest that perhaps it’s not a bad thing to do. 

Thank you so much for reading, friends!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

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Photography

My Momma’s Garden.

Hello, friends! A happy Wednesday to you! I’m currently in Mount Pleasant, visiting my family! And today is my little brother’s eighteenth birthday, so I did not want to miss that! It’s certainly a hot little day, mostly spent in front of the fan, but I did wander outside to admire my mom’s garden.

I don’t know if I could possibly be any more thankful that I live in a world where flowers exist. If I had to choose my top three, it’d probably be daisies, daffodils, and lilacs, but I’ve never seen a flower that I didn’t like.

I eagerly await the day where I can have a garden all my own. I would love to have a mix of flowers, vegetables, fruits, and herbs. Just imagine: you’re cooking dinner and you realize you don’t have enough cilantro for the salsa you’re making, and you go outside to pick some from your very own garden! I can’t think of anything better. For now, I’ll content myself with my windowsill strawberry plant and its adorable little sprouts.

I’ve mentioned my mom’s garden before, but as I come home from Traverse City for the first time, I’ve become more and more nostalgic about things. My mom’s garden being one of them.  How lovely is to be able to come home. 

This garden is the result of hours AND hours of hard work that my mom has done. It gets more and more beautiful every single time I saw it. I thought that I would share some photos that I’ve taken of this beautiful garden.

I hope you enjoy, my friends!

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Thank you so much for reading, friends! Have a great day!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

Musings

Simply Summertime: Five Simple Living Activities for Summer.

Hello, friends! A very happy Monday to you all! Today I wanted to write a post that is slightly reminiscent to this one, but different enough that I thought it was worthwhile to share. I felt compelled to write this in order to provide some inspiration for summer activities that are simple and don’t include spending unnecessary amounts of money.

  1. Admiring the flowers. I suppose that this one could work for spring as well, but I’m from Michigan, and you never know when these beauties will finally make an appearance. Appreciating flowers can happen all sorts of ways. You can find flowers in their natural habitat, or you can go to a grocery store to admire all of the beautiful pots of flowers they have. And maybe buy one or two… Or, see if anyone you know has a garden and would be willing to donate to your flower fund! I especially like the thought of that because then you have a patch of flowers that represent so many wonderful people that are close to you! My mom has a beautiful variety of flowers that come from many loved ones’ gardens.
  2. A picnic lunch. I absolutely adore picnics. I think they’re a lovely way to feel as though you’re eating out for much smaller of a cost! You may even be able to make a picnic lunch using food you already have in your kitchen. It’s a wonderful thing to do, especially when all you have are bits and pieces. A couple odd carrots, a handful of berries, and a chunk of cheese could be the base to an absolutely lovely picnic. And if the weather isn’t being kind, it’s also fun to have an indoor picnic! It’s the perfect rainy day activity. Rainy day picnics with a board game are such a wonderful way to pass the day!
  3. A scenic bike ride. Owning a bike is so wonderful because it can be put to practical use, when you have somewhere you need to be, or a leisurely purpose, when one has nowhere they have to be, but they just want to be out and about. You can look and see what sort of trails your town has, and take advantage of them. Some towns may not have such trails, but you could still bike all the same! You could maybe even sneak in an errand or two, especially if you have a nice little basket attached to your bike. Maybe a quick trip to the farmer’s market or to return some books to the library.
  4. An air-conditioned read. Speaking of libraries… I think that libraries, of course, are wonderful year-round, but there’s something about summertime library visits that are all the more magical. Maybe it causes me to reminisce of my summer breaks as a child, or maybe it’s because the air-conditioning in the library is such a wonderful refuge from the heat outside. Either way, this is one of my favorite activities to do in the summer. And once you have gotten your fill, you can continue your read under a nice and shady tree. How lovely!
  5. Wandering the Farmer’s Market. And speaking of farmer’s markets… I love a good farmer’s market. It’s so heartwarming to see so many hardworking individuals with so many wonderful things to sell. Maybe switch out getting your green beans from Meijer one weekend to buy a package of them from your local farmers. Or skip baking a loaf of banana bread to buy one from a local baker. I love making my own food, but I also love supporting local people as well. Bigger companies won’t care if you do or don’t buy one single loaf of bread, but for small businesses and local farmers, it will mean much, much more. I think it goes without saying that you shouldn’t spend yourself broke at farmer’s markets, but I definitely would suggest going and supporting your neighbors!

Thank you so much for reading, my lovely friends. I hope that your day has been wonderful so far, and that you’re able to take a minute or two today for yourself. A small thing or two that makes you happy!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae

Musings

A Packrat Composes Prose About a Vase of Flowers Past their Prime.

Hi, friends! I hope your day has been going well. Almost the weekend! Yay!

I’ve always been a bit of a packrat. I remember when my dad used his saw in our basement, I’d always collect the sawdust in little baggies and put them in my closet. I can’t tell you why I did this, because I don’t really know why I did this. I’ve always been a keeper of things. I still have just about every birthday card, party invitation, and thank-you note I’ve ever received.

And flowers. Oh, do I have a hard time getting rid of flowers. I can’t bear to, even when their water from them begins to stink up my kitchen.

That’s the story of these flowers. My Valentine’s Day flowers from Bobby. They’re still in the vase, the water either murky or evaporated. Seeing them in such a state makes me so sad. I wish I could breathe life into them again and make their stems green once more. But alas, my thumbs aren’t as green as I’d like them to be. As a matter of fact, I did (accidentally) kill a cactus once. It still causes me much distress.

But, I thought to myself, if I can’t bring a plant back to life, wouldn’t the second best thing be to give them a new life?

I took a couple baby’s breath and then some twine that I had bought for another project.

It was really easy, I just wrapped it around and then secured it so it wouldn’t fall apart. That being said, I’m not 100% confident that the flowers won’t fall out, so I may have to secure it further.

Thank you so much for reading! Have a great day!

Xoxo,

Mattie Mae

Travels

Legally Blonde: The Musical, Wedding Shopping, and the Cutest Bathroom I’ve Ever Seen.

Hi, friends! I wanted to do a little post this Monday because I had such an amazing weekend and took so many pictures that I wanted to share!

So, this weekend my aunt  and I went to Detroit to see Legally Blonde: the Musical! For those that don’t know, Legally Blonde is my favorite movie (tied with The Sound of Music). My aunt bought us tickets way back in October, so I’ve been impatiently waiting ever since. And oh my gosh, it did not disappoint! It was so dang cute!!! It was in the Fox theatre, which is just such a beautiful building. I wish we still designed buildings to be so lavish and ornate. I wasn’t able to get any pictures during the show, but I made sure to snap some of the theatre.

 

 

I also was sure to get some nice shots around the hotel!

My aunt and I also did some wedding shopping. We looked at a few wedding dresses, but I didn’t see any I liked enough to try on. But, we did find a lot of really cute decor and crafting supplies for decorating the church! I’ve decided that I want my colors to be a pale yellow and then white as well. Planning out a wedding while working and going to school can be kind of tricky, but I am do dang excited about it!!!! I’ll post pictures of what I end up doing with the supplies I got, but I figured that a picture of crafting supplies may not be as exciting to other people as it is to me… (hehe)

And oh my gosh, this may be kind of goofy, but we went shopping at one store in Bay City that had the CUTEST bathroom! The whole bathroom was adorned in fake flowers, assorted lotions, and just really cute little knickknacks. I was in LOVE!

 

Thank you so much for reading, have a great day!

XOXO,

Mattie Mae